In Every Human Heart

Photo Credit: bradhoc, Flickr

Photo Credit: bradhoc, Flickr

In Boston, where I live, April marks not only the beginning of spring but also the all-important Boston Marathon. Two years ago the iconic event was shattered by an explosion which killed three people and injured many more. Subsequently a police officer was also killed.

Earlier this month a jury found Dzhokhar Tsarnaev guilty of the crime on all thirty counts. Now, as spring bursts forth in Boston and as last week witnessed the 119th Boston Marathon, the same jury deliberates Tsarnaev’s fate.   Will Tsarnaev spend the rest of his life in prison or will he die for his crime?

News reports about the trial and the jury’s deliberations spark a fury online. Tempers rise as commenters express their opinions about what they believe should be Tsarnaev’s fate. For example, when the Catholic bishops stood in front of the courthouse expressing their opposition to the death penalty, many responded with outrage: “He should be made to suffer as much as he made others suffer.” “Let him fry.” “Torture him and then kill him.” Similarly, when Bill and Denise Richard, the parents of the 8-year-old boy killed by the explosion, wrote a letter expressing their desire to take the death penalty off the table, their views provoked ire.

What motivates these different perspectives? Is justice about vengeance, an eye for an eye and a tooth for a tooth? Is someone who advocates for life imprisonment soft on crime? Is such a person naïve?

What is happening in the heart of the person who advocates one approach or another? It’s easy for us to believe that by hating a person we despise, we separate ourselves from evil and differentiate ourselves as good. Yet the opposite is actually true. When we give in to hate, we begin to become like what we are hating. When hatred and violence grow in our hearts, we move closer along the spectrum toward the object of our hate.

The battle between good and evil plays out not between individuals but within individuals. The battle between good and evil is fought within every human heart. In an old parable, a wise man tells his grandson, “Within each of us lives a good wolf and a bad wolf, fighting a battle.” When the grandson asks, “Which one will win?” his grandfather replies, “The one I feed.”

I notice the seeds of vengeance within my own heart in simple daily circumstances. When someone cuts me off in traffic, my first impulse is to get even by passing and cutting in front of him. Or when my nephew manipulates me, I feel immediate anger and a desire for vengeance. When I notice these feelings, I have to breathe and get re-grounded, asking myself, “What do I really want to accomplish here? Who do I want to be in the world?” And then I can let it go (at least most of it, most of the time).

It behooves us, when we find ourselves seeking vengeance, whether toward someone who committed a heinous crime or toward someone who cut us off in traffic, to examine our hearts. What is our motivation? Are we becoming what we hate by feeding the vengeful, angry feelings? Who do we want to be in the world? Which wolf do we want to feed?

6 Responses to “In Every Human Heart”

  1. 1 susienallen April 30, 2015 at 3:01 pm

    Oh my, what a thoughtful and inviting response to the Tsarnaev trial and sentencing. It reminds me to pay attention to which wolf I feed – a moment by moment practice. Thank you, Margaret~

  2. 2 Nicolette Wellington April 30, 2015 at 3:05 pm

    Thank you so much for this reflection, Margaret.
    It is what I need to hear.

    Nicolette Wellington.

  3. 3 Joyce Ray April 30, 2015 at 8:55 pm

    Thank you for reminding me about the wolf parable and really thinking about which emotions I feed. It’s such an important decision even when the stakes are not high. Breathing and making space to step back and reflect even when something small is annoying is a valuable practice. I was happy to meet you at The Unruly Mystic, Margaret!

  4. 4 Fred Gregory April 30, 2015 at 10:17 pm

    Feed the good wolf is a good word for me today. Thank you!

  5. 5 May 16, 2015 at 3:06 pm

    I stand against the death penalty, not because it is wrong on principle but because we have such a poor record of applying it justly. There are strong arguments made that the death penalty can be rooted in the idea of justice, not vengeance. It is a way of validating the great worth of a human life. (The one which was unjustly taken) The “eye for eye” declaration is actually one of limiting punishment, not advocating revenge. In our vernacular, it would be like saying, “Let the punishment fit the crime.” In other words, act justly.

  6. 6 vicki schroeder May 19, 2015 at 4:58 pm

    Margaret-thank you for this reflection and think it is the voice of reason in a time where that doesn’t always shine through.

    I also believe that as we think of social conscience, we can apply these thoughts to organizations as well. Sometimes organizations also need to breathe and reground themselves to remain true to their mission, vision and values. Individuals make up organizations and there in our day of active social media there is the group think that can and does happen.
    Thanks always a pleasure to read your network.

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